Response to Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Part 3 (and most important part)

Examining the article recently published about Men preferring Debt free virgins without tattoos –
To summarize:  in an article that makes the claims she makes, I see no research and no scripture that defends the actual claims.!  This is purely an opinion piece.  It doesn’t represent anyone at all except herself (and the original writer perhaps).
I can honestly respect her opinion and as a student, I can filter out the good to keep and toss out the bad.
To wrap up, there are actually two “bads” that I want to comment on here.  These are serious.  We must be very careful to never misattribute God’s values.
Firstly,
this article may bring to attention some moral and wisdom decision making issues that are worth referencing (see links above about tattoos, premarital sex and debt)
but I believe this was the wrong way to handle these topics.
It may represent this woman’s opinion and may match the opinion of the handful of people that she cites in her response… but
It doesn’t tell the story of God and value.
Nothing in this article can mean that a woman (or man) who isn’t a virgin is less precious or even less pure.  Purity comes from God.  Purity doesn’t proceed from human effort.  We don’t start with purity and we don’t grunt out purity with our behavior or non-behavior.
If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.  I John 1:8-10
He cleanses us.  Not us.  He purifies us.  Not us. As pure people, we have the freedom to live in that purity(Titus 2:7, I Peter 3:2, I Tim 5:1-2, etc.)but we also have the choice to live as slaves to sin still (Rom 6). 
If you follow Jesus and accept His payment for you on the Cross, you are pure.  His blood makes us pure.  As the old Hymn would say “nothing but the blood of Jesus.”  Nothing.
And, in that freedom, we get to live as free people. What do we do with that freedom?
Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God.”  I Peter 2:16
 
Secondly.
this article, if you aren’t careful in your reading of it, will communicate that women who are not virgins, in debt or have tattoos cannot get the best men – godly men – high quality men.
Not true.
You are not “damaged goods” (or at least not any more damaged that the rest of us) or something less lovely or less pure (see above).
Good men, godly men, understand God’s value of treasure.   And we make decisions based on His measurements rather than our own.
There are men who submit their “preferences” to God’s perspective.
Any woman who follows Christ is part of a royal family – a royal priesthood!   She is a princess of The King.  He has purchased her a treasure with a great price – and with great joy!  (Matt 13:44).
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”  I Peter 2:9
Of course, men and women should be wise about making big decisions like college and marriage, but our wisdom is not always trustworthy… so we first submit our understandings to God.
Here is an understanding that I think Jesus Himself would be very passionate about.   Men, women, as you consider the person who are thinking about being married to, focus on their character.
Jesus takes the devaluing of His own very seriously.  Generally, devaluing a daughter is not something that a Father takes lightly.
As you consider the past decisions of a person you are considering marrying – even considering their mistakes, please meditate on the passionate words of Jesus Christ in a vision to The Apostle Peter:
“Do not call something unclean if God has made it clean.”  (NLT Acts 10:15)

4 thoughts on “Response to Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Part 3 (and most important part)

  1. 1. a bag of gold is a burden. It is also treasure and few of us would resent having to carry such a burden. If we can see others in that light, as you say – all burdens, but all treasure – then we can deal with it! Good eye.
    If there are any single women of the right age reading this, I recommend David as someone worth getting to know ;-). He gets it.

  2. In the list of preferences from Mrs. Alexander, I’m forced to ask myself, what are my preferences in relation to this list. As a single man, I have to consider my motivations for any relationship I enter. So I’ll respond to the three motives she ascribes to be my preferences and note what MY preferences are and that they are not necessarily shared.
    1. Men prefer women who are debt-free:
    Why? Because debt is a burden and men don’t like to be burdened. That may be true, but no woman fits that description. No man does either. We all carry baggage into a relationship that will test and stress the relationship. How will we collectively deal with the “debt” we individually bring to the relationship.
    2. Men prefer virgins:
    I prefer virtues. I think you covered this well, Chris, when you cited Acts 10:15. I am made pure by God who has absolved me of impurity and unrighteousness. I would prefer a woman who seeks God first. And as I stated above, I know she comes with baggage. I’d like to help her carry it well.
    3. Men prefer women without tattoos:
    I don’t care about the fact she has a tattoo. I care about the meaning she ascribes to it. What does it depict? What does it mean to her? Does she make much of it or little? Why? All of this speaks to her motivations and interests. And as a man interested in this woman, I’m interested in what she finds interesting.
    As with most articles in the news and on social media, this article seems to stop at the surface. I PREFER to go deeper than that.

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