Response to Men Prefer Debt Free Virgins without Tattoos
A few days ago, an article by one Lori Alexander hit Facebook with a storm and for the life of me, I cannot figure out why.
- I think the inflammatory title helped. I think this is the main effective tool for creating attention.
- I think the attractive young woman as the cover photo helped.
- It could be how simplistic and short the article is (I could learn from that) and therefore something of a straw-man and easy to stack with other ugly Christian stereotypes.
- I think mostly, this is due to people who disagree with the tenets of the article (or at least those indicated in the title) sharing and commenting on it.
It is actually just a copied note from “One woman (who) wrote me some more reasons that she thought of why women shouldn’t go to college” with the author’s comments and not really an article at all.
However, in the follow up (and re-titling of to “Godly Men Prefer Debt Free Virgins without Tattoos”) the article, Alexander claims to have gotten more than 90,000 posts on her article. In this follow up, she mostly reposts some of the positive comments she has gotten in the midst of the others most of which, as she admits “hate it.”
Responding to people
Sadly, many women (and men) have responded in a way that is the strange hypocrisy of modern liberal feminism… because they disagree with her message, they attack her as a woman under the control of men.
This is a thinking person, married 38 years, who runs her own website and 
just managed to get more hits and comments on one article than I have with all of mine combined over a decade.
I think it is foolish and wrong (and possible sexist) to dismiss her just because she is a woman with an opinion I don’t agree with.
I respect her ability to create and hold and verbalize an opinion in more than a meme and a post on Social Media – something many others do not seem capable of.
So, in an effort to treat her and her article with dignity, I will respond:
When reading the introduction, I assumed that this woman (she claims to be 60 years old) was seeking to impress upon young women the importance of what she thinks is making wise (debt and tattoos) and moral (sex before marriage) decisions.
I assumed that she was using the motivation that “men prefer” women who have made these decisions.
I am not going to comment on those actual decisions here. I already have articles published about what I believe the biblical perspective is on Tattoos and premarital sex.
A friend has posted more than one article on debt that I think are good ones – check them out.
As one friend of mine posted in response to the article “But wouldn’t both men and women prefer to marry debt-free virgins?”(maybe not sure about tattoos) – at least not “bad tattoos”). Given the complete lack of any kind of statistics or even a survey in the article, I don’t feel the need to approach the 
question of accuracy for a question like this.
Anytime we talk about preferences, there are always going to be some people who prefer almost any trait. If the implication was to be that ALL men do, then clearly this is patently wrong.
In her response, Alexander says that she should have entitled it “Godly men…”
It felt to me that in her follow up article, she is actually now making these preferences a test for whether or not a man is godly. (eg. If he prefers a girl with a tattoo, he must NOT be godly.).
As I will make clear at the end of this article, a godly man could certainly 
prefer a woman with or without any or all of these three things!
This was clearly not the meaning in the first article, which turns out NOT to be what I thought it would be – an attempt to motivate young women to wise or moral behavior…
But instead a stance taken against girls going to college. Part 2