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Loving the mother of your children conference

Mother’s Day is coming up, an ultimate day of testing for a father. What type of gift will mean the most to my wife this holiday? How do I give her compliments that will mean something to her? How do I parent my children so that know how to treat a women well?

Our purpose as husbands is to love our wives as Christ loved the church.  But in order to embrace being a father and a husband, we need to understand our wives as completely as possible. What does life look like from their perspective? How are even supposed to figure that out?

 

Event details

Just in time for Mother’s day, Alethia Counseling, as part of its Navigating Speaking Series, presents “Loving your Wife well Workshop”. This two hour workshop will take place on April 25th 2017 from 6-8:30 pm and will be hosted at South Spring Baptist Campus.  Our main session will be led by Chris Legg, LPC and Zach Herrin, LPC where they will let you in on some secrets they’ve learned as how to better understand the hearts of the women God has put into our lives.

Next comes the first time ever, Q&A panel of female Licensed Professional Counselors, with the aim of equipping you as husbands with their first hand perspective from women. Allison Cooper LPC, Amy Waters LPC and Molly Moore LPC-Intern will give you their helpful perspective while answering the questions most men have about the women in their lives. You can call the Alethia Counseling offices at 903-561-8955 if you have questions and to RSVP.

 

 

 

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How should I help my child overcome their anxiety? Does my child need to be parented any differently? When my child feels anxious do I push them or let them avoid the situations that make them anxious? Should I be quicker or slower to let my child experience disappointment? How am I even supposed to figure all of this out? These and many other questions will be answered at How to Parent an Anxious Child.

 

Parenting an anxious child workshop

Alethia Counseling, as part of its Navigating Speaking Series, presents “Parenting Anxious Kids Workshop”. This two hour workshop will take place on May 9th 2017 from 6-8 pm and hosted at South Spring Baptist Campus.  Our short introductory session will be led by Lead therapist, Millie Tanner, LPC where she will unfold a model of parenting that addresses the heart of our kids and how to help them better understand anxiety.

 

Next comes three breakout sessions to choose from, all with Licensed Professional Counselors, with the aim of equipping you as parents. Allison Cooper and Millie Tanner will speak on how to practically help kids with anxiety. Josh Berger will address how anxiety sometimes appears as anger in your child, and Keely Burks will be covering sensory processing issues and how they lead to anxiety.

 

Please call the Alethia Counseling offices to register at 903-561-8955.

 

 

(Don’t want to miss a thing? Let us know when you RSVP that you would like to receive emails about upcoming Alethia events and seminars. 903-561-8955.)

 

 

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how to be a father

New workshop by Chris Legg and Zach Herrin

Mother’s Day is coming up, an ultimate day of testing for a father. What type of gift will mean the most to my wife this holiday? How do I give her compliments that will mean something to her? How do I parent my children so that know how to treat a women well?

 

Our purpose as husbands is to love our wives as Christ loved the church.  But in order to embrace being a father and a husband, we need to understand our wives as completely as possible. What does life look like from their perspective? How are even supposed to figure that out?

 

Event details

Just in time for Mother’s day, Alethia Counseling, as part of its Navigating Speaking Series, presents “Loving your Wife well Workshop”. This two hour workshop will take place on April 25th 2017 from 6-8:30 pm and will be hosted at South Spring Baptist Campus.  Our main session will be led by Chris Legg, LPC and Zach Herrin LPC where they will let you in on some secrets they’ve learned as how to better understand the hearts of the women God has put into our lives.

 

Next comes the first time ever, Q&A panel of female Licensed Professional Counselors, with the aim of equipping you as husbands with their first hand perspective from women. Allison Cooper LPC, Amy Waters LPC and Molly Moore LPC-Intern will give you their helpful perspective while answering the questions most men have about the women in their lives. Please call the Alethia Counseling offices at 903-561-8955 if you have questions and to RSVP.


(Don’t want to miss any seminars in the future? Let us know when you RSVP that you would like to receive emails about upcoming Alethia events and seminars. 903-561-8955)

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Full Audio of our Parenting in Freedom Seminar

This is the audio from our recent parenting seminar.  All kinds of good stuff for parents and grandparents.  General philosophy, anxiety for kids, discipline ideas and boundaries.  Check it out.  We are excited to offer input and support for families.

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What if our purpose as parents was to model traits of God to our children? How would we parent? Would we hover more or less? Would we be quicker or slower to hand over the car keys? How are even supposed to figure when to give our kids freedom and when to hold back?

 

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Alethia Counseling, as part of its Navigating Speaking Series, presents “Freedom Based Parenting.” This two hour seminar will take place on May 17th at 6pm. Our main session will be led by Pastor/Speaker Chris Legg, where he will unfold a model of parenting that starts with the character of God, which Chris likes to call a Freedom Based approach. Next comes three breakout sessions to choose from, all with Licensed Professional Counselors, with the aim of equipping you as parents. Allison Cooper will speak to issues pertaining to anxiety, Josh Berger will address behavior in your child, and Zach Herrin will be covering boundaries. Please call the Alethia Counseling offices if you have questions and to RSVP. Don’t want to miss a thing? Let us know when you RSVP that you would like to receive emails about upcoming Alethia events and seminars. 903-561-8955.

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Ginger and me

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I was recently asked to comment on the question of how much time a husband and wife should spend together… and most often this actually takes the form of “how much time is it reasonable to for me to ask my spouse to spend with me (since I have asked and they told me what I was asking for was unreasonable).

I have a couple of comments.

First, before I say anything else, I want to communicate that one of the things that can make marriage fun is when you know you can ask for what you want.

I think a spouse should generally not be chastised for asking for what they want… I am serious when I tell my wife that I want her to feel welcome to ask for what she wants.  If my wife wants more time, more focus (can you imagine?) from me, then I want to know it!

I cannot promise that she will always get it, but sure want to know about it just in case I can!  This rule is a family rule, by the way.  The kids area also allowed to ask for what they want… but not promised to get what they want…

And I love, even when I cannot provide, to dream with my wife or child.

“I really want that toy” …  “Man, I bet it would be great to have every toy we could imagine – what else would you like if you could wish for it?” – that isn’t sarcasm, it can be just dreaming with them!

Also, different people have different Love Languages – one of which is “Quality Time” (according to Gary Chapman)… in my marriage, I would translate that for my wife into “Undivided Attention.”

The idea here is that one spouse may be satisfied with less time than the other… but why not take the opportunity to give it?  I want to be able to give what I can when I can, because The Lord knows that I will not always be able to say yes.

God is a God who loves to give good gifts… and I love to reflect Him as a good gift giver to the people I love the most.  I love to give them what they want, when I can or when I think it is right/best. Now, on to the question more directly…

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For years, counselors have compared marriage to a garden.  This comparison works on many levels.  I have pointed out before that one comparison is that the “natural” state of a garden (meaning the state it exists in without the intentional input of energy) is death; the “natural” state of marriage is divorce.  Without the intentional input of energy, marriage dies.

Many want to think of marriage as similar to drifting downstream together… but that would imply that the natural state of marriage is to go where it needs to, but that isn’t the case, as anyone who is married knows.

I assume most therapists would agree with me that very few marriages end with the emotional bang… most marriages that end in divorce, drift into divorce.

There is more to look at in regards to this issue here at boring marriages… and ideas of how to avoid that drift!  If the question is one of sex, it may actually be about intimacy, so I would encourage you to take a look at the conversation about how those things are linked in powerful ways.

But in response to the question asked, the first answer would have to do with what kind of garden you have?  If a garden is otherwise healthy, and in an environment that engenders health (think two people who are generally healthy and who have quite a bit in common), then less scheduled and intentional time is probably necessary.

Years ago, I think I remember hearing James Dobson say that he figured a good minimum goal would be:  15-30 minutes a day, 2 hours a week, 1 night a quarter, and one weekend a year.  I like these, and would generally agree…

By this he meant (if I am remembering it correctly) that we need direct and meaningful conversation and interaction 15-30 minutes every day in order to keep the garden in good shape.   Then, we need to plan a more extended period each week in addition to that – a date, couch time, etc. of meaningful interaction; then an overnight away about 4 times a year and a longer couple’s vacation about once a year.

Keep in mind, this is focused time!  Watching TV together, while nice at times, would not count, unless you were engaging at the time with one another (in which case, feel free to turn off the television).

Now, you can already see that a one-size-fits-all rule just won’t work, though.

So, what are some concepts that might work?  Jump on over to part II

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A friend who is a minister to Muslims sent me this report – this is an “open letter” from many in Muslim leadership to the followers of “ISIS”… and their leader.  It shows the breach that is developing in International Islam, and exemplifies that many in the Muslim world do proclaim that Islam can live without conflict with others.

http://www.lettertobaghdadi.com

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