I have been asked to supply some additional thoughts about expectations – specifically about disappointment … after what I have written about expectations, a good friend wanted me to talk about how to handle being disappointed and how to handle being a disappointment. However, I didn’t have time to put it together, so Lord willing,…Continue reading When to seek marriage counseling
The Dangers of Expectations – Part II
The way expectations can be even worse on a relationship is the way that they greatly limit the giving of free gifts. It is virtually impossible for someone to “meet an expectation” and give something freely at the same time. As I mentioned before, if my wife expects me to brush her hair three time…Continue reading The Dangers of Expectations – Part II
Most influential speaker… I found his archive!
Tony Campolo has been one of the most influential speakers on me as a speaker, but also as a Christian and just as a human seeking to live life abundantly and passionately. His sermons are hopeful and yet convicting as very few others are. One of my goals is to live stories like he tells……Continue reading Most influential speaker… I found his archive!
The Dangers of Expectations – Part I
I hear and read about people who lionize the role of expectations… a lot. Marriage counselors talk about how spouses should be clear in their expectations. Business leaders tell us to communicate our expectations clearly. Relationship experts even tell us that we should be clear about our sexual expectations – frequency, style, etc. Parents are strongly…Continue reading The Dangers of Expectations – Part I
Focus On the Family Report on The Effect of Divorce on the Children of Divorce
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/should_i_get_a_divorce/how_could_divorce_affect_my_kids.aspx There is some shocking information here – especially the efffects after 25 years. I think all therapists would confirm this – I know that is has been my experience that this is accurate.
Grief and Grieving – Part V Just Grieve
So, to wrap up this conversation on grief and grieving… I hope that is has been helpful. If nothing else, I hope you can see and know that you/we aren’t in this alone. We are in this together. The things here will not be as organized… I am kind of finishing up various thoughts –…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part V Just Grieve
Grief and Grieving… Words of Experience
A spiritual brother of mine faced the grief of his precious baby girl’s death a little over a year ago. His concept of the “new normal” has been an encouragement to many of my clients who are grieving. In this blog entry, he offers some godly wisdom filled with power and intimacy for anyone else…Continue reading Grief and Grieving… Words of Experience
Grief and Grieving – Part IV "what does grief look like?"
Before diving into other areas of consideration tonight, I want to comment on other common psychological reactions to grief… many of these are connected to Post Traumatic Stress – which I think is likely an extreme grief reaction. I am not saying that these events are any more or less real than our own psyche,…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part IV "what does grief look like?"
Grief and Grieving – Part III "Am I normal?"
So, if grief is not gotten over, but instead, gotten used to, what are some ideas for grieving well? I am glad you asked. I don’t really have a format so much as thoughts to consider. As I mentioned, though there may be value to format thinking, it can also be dangerous. Too often, when…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part III "Am I normal?"
What is the role of "uncomfortable"
Today , since I am on vacation, I have invited a Guest author: Drew Anderson of Flower Mound, TX. e-mail: drew.anderson@gsmortgage.com I will finish the conversation on Grieving asap… but Drew’s comments fit very nicely in with what we have been talking about so far! August 8, 2011 Uncomfortable. This is a word that perhaps…Continue reading What is the role of "uncomfortable"
Grief and Grieving – Part II – what is grief? what is grieving?
It is part of the human condition, at least while here on Earth, to live with grief. Like big balls of double-sided tape, rolling through the medium we call “time,” collecting every regret, lament, remorse, etc. we rotate across. Sometimes the older ones eventually can seem to get buried under the new ones. For years…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part II – what is grief? what is grieving?
Things you don’t say to your wife
Basic education for men http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK2OakMoW_c&feature=related
Things you don't say to your wife – Tim Hawkins
Basic education for men. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK2OakMoW_c&feature=related
Grief and Grieving
I am starting this on May 10th, and it is my best friend’s birthday… however, he died a few years ago. In fact, I am now older than he ever was. His birthday (and the fact that I talked about grief and stress on TV this morning and with clients today) has brought to my…Continue reading Grief and Grieving
A Parable of Redemption – you want to watch this.
Hair-on-back-of-neck-moment. Nobody really seems to understand redemption anymore… but this explains it http://pjcockrell.wordpress.com/2007/11/22/amazing-grace-just-the-black-notes/ Slave master x slave chords x slaves = free… truly free.
linkage issues
Hey, I recently changed a few article’s website page names… without thinking through all of the consequences. If you try a link and it won’t connect, please let me know so I can fix it. Thanks – Chris
Talking to kids about sex – Part IV
I think I started the third talk about sex with an old story/legend about a man in the early 1900’s whose Model “T” had died on the side of the road. A stranger pulled alongside and offered some advice. The stuck driver was reluctant and argued, claiming to know a lot about cars. The good…Continue reading Talking to kids about sex – Part IV
Talking with kids about sex – Part III
Year 2 of the training The second year was the Human Sex ed. Class as we normally think of it. I actually drew out the diagrams of the male and female sex organs and talked first about the way they accomplish the reproduction part of sex. (as they used to say in “Silver Streak”… “What…Continue reading Talking with kids about sex – Part III
Talking with Kids about Sex Part II
Ok, so back to the birds and the bees. If you have not read part 1 yet, I recommend https://chrismlegg.com/2011/07/03/talking-to-kids-about-sex-part-i/ I really think that somewhere around age 11ish is the perfect age to tell our kids about sex. At this point, I think they are likely to be prepared to have the conversation somewhat and…Continue reading Talking with Kids about Sex Part II
Summer (Hebrews) Bible Study Change of Location
Hey, for all of you who attend the Summer Bible Study, we are moving to FBC’s South Campus for the remainder of our studies. Same time, 9-11am… they have been gracious enough to let us host it there, and we have loved meeting at Heartland Ham, but I think we get in their way a…Continue reading Summer (Hebrews) Bible Study Change of Location