The way expectations can be even worse on a relationship is the way that they greatly limit the giving of free gifts. It is virtually impossible for someone to “meet an expectation” and give something freely at the same time. As I mentioned before, if my wife expects me to brush her hair three time…Continue reading The Dangers of Expectations – Part II
Category: Therapy
The Dangers of Expectations – Part I
I hear and read about people who lionize the role of expectations… a lot. Marriage counselors talk about how spouses should be clear in their expectations. Business leaders tell us to communicate our expectations clearly. Relationship experts even tell us that we should be clear about our sexual expectations – frequency, style, etc. Parents are strongly…Continue reading The Dangers of Expectations – Part I
Focus On the Family Report on The Effect of Divorce on the Children of Divorce
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/should_i_get_a_divorce/how_could_divorce_affect_my_kids.aspx There is some shocking information here – especially the efffects after 25 years. I think all therapists would confirm this – I know that is has been my experience that this is accurate.
Grief and Grieving – Part V Just Grieve
So, to wrap up this conversation on grief and grieving… I hope that is has been helpful. If nothing else, I hope you can see and know that you/we aren’t in this alone. We are in this together. The things here will not be as organized… I am kind of finishing up various thoughts –…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part V Just Grieve
Grief and Grieving – Part IV "what does grief look like?"
Before diving into other areas of consideration tonight, I want to comment on other common psychological reactions to grief… many of these are connected to Post Traumatic Stress – which I think is likely an extreme grief reaction. I am not saying that these events are any more or less real than our own psyche,…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part IV "what does grief look like?"
Grief and Grieving – Part III "Am I normal?"
So, if grief is not gotten over, but instead, gotten used to, what are some ideas for grieving well? I am glad you asked. I don’t really have a format so much as thoughts to consider. As I mentioned, though there may be value to format thinking, it can also be dangerous. Too often, when…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part III "Am I normal?"
What is the role of "uncomfortable"
Today , since I am on vacation, I have invited a Guest author: Drew Anderson of Flower Mound, TX. e-mail: drew.anderson@gsmortgage.com I will finish the conversation on Grieving asap… but Drew’s comments fit very nicely in with what we have been talking about so far! August 8, 2011 Uncomfortable. This is a word that perhaps…Continue reading What is the role of "uncomfortable"
Grief and Grieving – Part II – what is grief? what is grieving?
It is part of the human condition, at least while here on Earth, to live with grief. Like big balls of double-sided tape, rolling through the medium we call “time,” collecting every regret, lament, remorse, etc. we rotate across. Sometimes the older ones eventually can seem to get buried under the new ones. For years…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part II – what is grief? what is grieving?
Things you don't say to your wife – Tim Hawkins
Basic education for men. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK2OakMoW_c&feature=related
Grief and Grieving
I am starting this on May 10th, and it is my best friend’s birthday… however, he died a few years ago. In fact, I am now older than he ever was. His birthday (and the fact that I talked about grief and stress on TV this morning and with clients today) has brought to my…Continue reading Grief and Grieving
Talking to kids about sex – Part IV
I think I started the third talk about sex with an old story/legend about a man in the early 1900’s whose Model “T” had died on the side of the road. A stranger pulled alongside and offered some advice. The stuck driver was reluctant and argued, claiming to know a lot about cars. The good…Continue reading Talking to kids about sex – Part IV
Talking with kids about sex – Part III
Year 2 of the training The second year was the Human Sex ed. Class as we normally think of it. I actually drew out the diagrams of the male and female sex organs and talked first about the way they accomplish the reproduction part of sex. (as they used to say in “Silver Streak”… “What…Continue reading Talking with kids about sex – Part III
Talking with Kids about Sex Part II
Ok, so back to the birds and the bees. If you have not read part 1 yet, I recommend https://chrismlegg.com/2011/07/03/talking-to-kids-about-sex-part-i/ I really think that somewhere around age 11ish is the perfect age to tell our kids about sex. At this point, I think they are likely to be prepared to have the conversation somewhat and…Continue reading Talking with Kids about Sex Part II
Romantic Ideas for Husbands from Family Life
Here is a series of ideas for men in regards to loving their wives… some of them may seem a little cheezy, but I guess that doenst mean it will to you – or much much more importantly, our wives… http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.4126505/k.D43C/Simply_Romantic_Tips_for_Him.htm#
Talking to Kids about Sex Part I
Talking to Kids About Sex Part I I married a girl who grew up in the city… with no guns in the house. Naturally, she was concerned about us having guns in our house, especially when we began to have children. So, I called my father and asked him about it. It’s ok, don’t worry……Continue reading Talking to Kids about Sex Part I
Marriage and Family Counseling in Tyler, Texas
I tend to think that most of us need, or could at least really be helped by, counseling at some point. And though I imagine that it did not exist in just the same form as we think of it now, the most common “counsel” that wise King Solomon gave was actually to seek counsel! …Continue reading Marriage and Family Counseling in Tyler, Texas
The Lonely Dragon – Part II
Living in the cave seemed a little safer. But it wasn’t really as safe as she thought. Over the next few years, she had suitors, knights, kings, and princes, come find her in her cave. Though she was intrigued by some of them, she also didn’t understand them and something in her didn’t believe any…Continue reading The Lonely Dragon – Part II
The Lonely Dragon – the story of a woman who fights against what she really wants (part I)
The Lonely Dragon The story of a woman who fights against what she really wants. Note: this is my first shot and it is almost stream-of-consciousness with very little filtering. Please offer your feedback. Once upon a time there was a beautiful little princess. She was very sweet and gentle and very clever. She was…Continue reading The Lonely Dragon – the story of a woman who fights against what she really wants (part I)
Parenting is Discipleship – short article
“The most important thing that a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” Rev. Theodore Hesburgh Parenting is fundamentally discipleship… intense, daily, unrelenting, often unappreciated discipleship. They relate to one another in the same way that an ultra-marathon is a type of footrace. Discipleship, then, is fundamentally about replicating oneself. Paul…Continue reading Parenting is Discipleship – short article
Articles on Addiction
The links here all appear to be dead links. I am checking on them… A young lady I know, Lea Rittenhouse, interviewed me about addiction issues. Despite that, I think they turned out very well and very helpful. Enjoy: Drug addictions: http://patriottalon.com/story/addiction-student-life Body Image addiction: http://patriottalon.com/story/addiction-student-life-0 Technology addiction: http://patriottalon.com/story/addiction-student-life-1 Sex and pornography addiction: http://patriottalon.com/story/addiction-student-life-2…Continue reading Articles on Addiction