Part 1 Happy Valentine’s Day! I was recently asked to comment on the question of how much time a husband and wife should spend together, and most often this actually takes the form of “how much time is it reasonable to for me to ask my spouse to spend with me? (since I have asked…Continue reading How Much Time Do Husbands and Wives Need to Spend Together? Part I
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Talking to Kids about Sex Part I… re-released
Talking to Kids About Sex Part I I married a girl who grew up in the city… with no guns in the house. Naturally, she was concerned about us having guns in our house, especially when we began to have children. So, I called my father and asked him about it. I remembered that I had…Continue reading Talking to Kids about Sex Part I… re-released
How Often Should a Married Couple have Sex? Part III
Now, another other option(go back and read part I and II if you have not) is to sit still, or move away, and develop more and more resentment about not getting your “needs” met. (Sex is not a need, and that is why I put it in quotes in recognition of how many other counselors…Continue reading How Often Should a Married Couple have Sex? Part III
How often Should a Married Couple have Sex? Part II
But since we are talking about frequency… there is so often a problem with couple’s sex lives and a change in frequency seems like it would be the solution, but rarely is it. Frequency is rarely going to have the same threshold for two different people when your resources for loving each other are limited.…Continue reading How often Should a Married Couple have Sex? Part II
How often should a Married Couple have Sex? Part I
How often should a married couple have sex? 16 . Ok, just kidding. I know that most people are looking for a number, and even though you knew that I wasn’t going to offer one so easily, I know you are hoping for an easy answer even though you know one doesn’t exist. Answers? Yes.…Continue reading How often should a Married Couple have Sex? Part I
5 Greek words for "Love"
The Five Loves Welcome! How wise of you to be researching love. Few things in life are more important than true love (“except maybe for a nice MLT: mutton lettuce and tomato sandwich…”)… I am no Greek scholar, but I am passing on what I have been taught and what I understand about these words…Continue reading 5 Greek words for "Love"
Interesting data on mid-life crises
Here is some interesting information on mid-life crises… in case you want to learn some more!
Marriage Talks from Pine Cove Family Camp 2013
This is some of my most important stuff for developing a great marriage. I think the 5th talk is about sex… but all of the talks work together. Enjoy! http://www.pinecove.com/stuff/audio/woods-talk-downloads
Great article on helping people with Mental Illness by Millie Tanner
http://alethiacounseling.com/2014/09/20/church-and-mental-illness/ Go check out this great, practical article about how people in the church can help people with mental illness.
Bullying Issues – part 2
Now we pick up at point two about dealing with bulling issues: 2. Developing open and ongoing communication with your child – communication is crucial for a good relationship with your child. What I am referring to here is telling your child how they can come to you if something inappropriate pops up on their phone…Continue reading Bullying Issues – part 2
Long Term Study of Men (70+ years!) Results.
This is encouraging and challenging. Let me strongly encourage you to read the entire article, especially if you lack/lacked any of the traits of success in early life. http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/09/02/love-is-all-you-need-insights-from-the-longest-longitudinal-study-on-men-ever-conducted/
Bullying issues, bullies, and Kids being bullied.
Just in time for school, Josh Berger (http://www.bergercounseling.com), one of our counselors at Alethia (LPC Intern) has written an article about bullying. We hope it is helpful to you! When Kids Get Bullied For many of us, bullies were an unfortunate part of growing up. We dealt with the worry, the embarrassment, the shame. We…Continue reading Bullying issues, bullies, and Kids being bullied.
Interview about midlife Crises
I was recently was interviewed by a Master’s Student about my opinions on mid-life crises. I do not claim to be an expert, but I think the mid-life crisis is an identity issue. Anyway, here are my thoughts – Do most people experience a mid-life crisis? And does it affect men more than women? Or…Continue reading Interview about midlife Crises
Grief and Grieving – Part I
I am starting this on May 10th, and it is my best friend’s birthday… however, he died a few years ago. In fact, I am now older than he ever was. His birthday (and the fact that I talked about grief and stress on TV this morning and with clients today) has brought to my mind…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part I
Speaking Series on Rest… and sex
You can download my talks on rest (including the talk about bringing rest and grace into your sex life) from week 11. They are unedited – I will put out an edited version in the future… but for now, enjoy!
How Much Time Should Husbands and Wives Spend Together, Part II
Part 2 Go check out Part I, if you haven’t yet. We are answering the question, “how much time should spouses spend with each other?” With friends who are very similar to us, we can feel like we’ve spent a long time together even when we haven’t. Our temperaments, perspectives, opinions, etc., are so similar…Continue reading How Much Time Should Husbands and Wives Spend Together, Part II
Guest Author: Hunter Beless on Friendship
As many of you know, I am passionate about the power and significance of Friendship. I believe friendship trumps all earthly relationships – and, as Hunter points out, marriage is the ultimate version of it. Hunter and her noble husband, Brooks, were students of mine in various ways over the years… You can read more…Continue reading Guest Author: Hunter Beless on Friendship
Facets of Sexuality… Part 1: Erotic
In the recent Seminar for Men, I quickly referenced the different engagements with sexuality – erotic, illicit and intimate. I have gotten questions about it, so, in preparation for the rest of the articles on “insights helpful to men into regards to communicating treasure-hood to their spouses through sexuality” (or some other equally subtle and…Continue reading Facets of Sexuality… Part 1: Erotic
Facets of Sexuality… Part 2: Intimate
The other way that a person can experience sexuality is intimately. If illicit sex is about experiencing the dark or shameful excitement of doing something “wrong” and erotic sexuality is about experiencing the joys of sex, then intimate sexuality is about experiencing and knowing another person. In the intimate…Continue reading Facets of Sexuality… Part 2: Intimate
Danger Will Robinson! Family Internet Part 2
… I hear regularly about a child who gains access to internet porn via a portal that they were unaware existed! When I ask, parents tell me that they are careful about their children’s internet usage and access by telling me that the family computer is in a public space… or maybe they have put…Continue reading Danger Will Robinson! Family Internet Part 2