Managing the Family Internet For years, I have encouraged families to be smart about any version of adult sexuality that is “visible” in their homes, especially once they have children. For this reason, for years when I had been talking to parents with children around the age of 9, I had told them it was…Continue reading The Family Internet – you cannot be ignorant – Part I
Category: Therapy
Our Counseling Office is Moving!
Alethia is the Greek word most often translated “Truth.” I will probably write more about this soon… but its technical and literal meaning is “not hidden.” This is the perfect name that embodies what we are all about at our counseling offices… coming alongside people to help them uncover and engage with the truth(s) that…Continue reading Our Counseling Office is Moving!
Post Abortion Healing Help
I have done post-abortion healing counseling groups a few times in the past – it is powerful, painful, redemptive, live-giving, and one of the toughest thing I have ever done for people… If anyone out there wants/needs to talk about this issue, I would love to talk about it with you… and am so proud…Continue reading Post Abortion Healing Help
A new way of thinking about Emotions?
Emotions – a new understanding I have written that recently my understanding of what emotions are has grown – or maybe, rather, shrunk… My understanding has grown simplified. I think that our emotions are largely our heart and soul communicating with our bodies. I have written more about this part of it… here The basic…Continue reading A new way of thinking about Emotions?
Boundaries, Abuse and Terrorism
Good Boundaries, Healthy Relationships, and Terrorists One of the greatest signs of an unhealthy relationship is when one person takes on the responsibility for the bad conduct and strong emotions of the other. This is common in unhealthy relationships, by the way. An abused wife often finds herself in a constant frenzy in…Continue reading Boundaries, Abuse and Terrorism
interviewed for podcast: talking to kids about the Gospel
I was recently interviewed about talking to kids about the gospel – how, how young, etc. Check it out: http://chrisldrake.wordpress.com/radio-2/
Rites of Passages – How our Family does them – Part II
Rites of passages plans for for my sons: Age 7 – Page (following the medieval knighthood model)…event: trip to Medieval Times with another friend and dad. Gift: Leatherman (kept in a drawer that they get permission to carry.) Message: you are not just a child anymore, but a contributing member of the family. You are…Continue reading Rites of Passages – How our Family does them – Part II
Upcoming Speaking and Events!
I will be speaking some to our FBC South Youth August 29th at 6:30pm Pine Cove Labor Day Conference Labor Day Weekend at the Woods www.pinecove.com Sept 5th – Womenary Starts! 9-11am Systematic Theology (great time to start Womenary) www.womenary.com Sept 5th – FBC Tyler South – How to read the Bible – Dinner at…Continue reading Upcoming Speaking and Events!
Anxiety and other emotions – Part 3
A final word about anxiety that might help you: It is not possible to see the positive while in the midst of feeling anxiety. Anxiety isn’t looking for good things, it is looking for threats – so it ignores anything good or nice. Can you imagine looking into a dark alley, heart racing, palms sweating,…Continue reading Anxiety and other emotions – Part 3
Anxiety and other Emotions – Part 2
Some people feel medium and even high levels of anxiety all the time… Which means they are ALWAYS in the state of looking for a threat to fix. Remember that is what anxiety is? “Something is wrong, find it and fix it…” So the soul is in a constant state of being SOOO sure that…Continue reading Anxiety and other Emotions – Part 2
Anxiety (and other emotions) Part I
I have a new way of understanding emotions that has been working itself out in my head for a while… Emotions are a way for our body to communicate with itself, specifically about the allocation of energy, I now think. This would make sense from a design perspective – the usage of energy is vital…Continue reading Anxiety (and other emotions) Part I
How to not keep being traumatized by difficult people you love
It is amazing what we as humans can deal with when we see things in different perspectives. Imagine that you chose to work at a camp for helping Down’s Syndrome kids. Imagine that at some point, a big teenage DS boy walks up to you in the cafeteria and touched you in a sexually inappropriate…Continue reading How to not keep being traumatized by difficult people you love
The Taming of Fantasies
I have a good friend who is publishing a book on the errors surrounding the role of fantasy in the lives of Christians. When it comes out, I will tout it here! She asked me for my thoughts and one powerful concept came to my mind that I wanted to link to my conversations on…Continue reading The Taming of Fantasies
Men Be Motivated – challenge from EVERCLEAR
Watch This First. Many of you have seen this already, I know… Men, please be motivated by this. Are we angered by what angers God? Are we moved by what moves Him? I am filled with what feels like rage when I watch this, if rage is pain and anger mixed with grief. We MUST…Continue reading Men Be Motivated – challenge from EVERCLEAR
Perfectionism – Part I
My sister has asked me to write an article about perfectionism… and I am going to write it entirely from my perspective. I don’t claim to be an expert, but I do have some thoughts. Before I go any further, I will tell you think I generally consider “perfectionism” a type of “life rule” or…Continue reading Perfectionism – Part I
The Power of Fathers – Part II
Because it is what my dad chose… And I knew he could do whatever he wanted. Choose what he wanted. And that is what he chose. His choices were limitless (from a child’s perspective), so, naturally what he chose must be the best. To this day, if I were offered many choices of candy bars,…Continue reading The Power of Fathers – Part II
Understanding (ours and others') Emotions II
If you have not read part I, go back and read Part I Here are some of the habitual beliefs that can really cause us problems: 1. That everything people do is an indication of whether they really love us or not. If our husband doesn’t take us on a date, it means he doesn’t…Continue reading Understanding (ours and others') Emotions II
Understanding (ours and others) Emotions
I think the material here can really help any of us understand ourselves better – I think you will be glad you read it… A guy named Albert Ellis developed some ideas about therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) years ago that I think have some great tools mixed in. Perhaps one of the ones that I…Continue reading Understanding (ours and others) Emotions
Experiencing (and being) a Disappointment
After the articles on the Powers and Dangers of expectations I was asked by a good friend to follow it up with a conversation on the topic of: Disappointment. And I hate to let him down… Budda bum bum bum. This one is for you, Chad. I realized that it was a good idea since…Continue reading Experiencing (and being) a Disappointment
When to seek marriage counseling
I have been asked to supply some additional thoughts about expectations – specifically about disappointment … after what I have written about expectations, a good friend wanted me to talk about how to handle being disappointed and how to handle being a disappointment. However, I didn’t have time to put it together, so Lord willing,…Continue reading When to seek marriage counseling