My sister has asked me to write an article about perfectionism… and I am going to write it entirely from my perspective. I don’t claim to be an expert, but I do have some thoughts. Before I go any further, I will tell you think I generally consider “perfectionism” a type of “life rule” or…Continue reading Perfectionism – Part I
FBC South Campus: Wednesday evenings. Dinner 5:45, teaching at 6:30. How to make a church a place where people feel like they belong. Please come join us! Grace High School: Feb 6th – Teen issues, focusing attention on the role of addictive things and Marijuana. Pine Cove “Romance Me” weekend Feb 3rd weekend. www.pinecove.com Womenary…Continue reading Upcoming Speaking Events
Because it is what my dad chose… And I knew he could do whatever he wanted. Choose what he wanted. And that is what he chose. His choices were limitless (from a child’s perspective), so, naturally what he chose must be the best. To this day, if I were offered many choices of candy bars,…Continue reading The Power of Fathers – Part II
The Thief comes to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that you might have life and have it abundantly.” Jesus Christ. For years I have talked to mostly men, and a few women, about issues connected to the temptations particular to pornography. Since the incidents of women engaging in pornography is apparently on the…Continue reading Examining the Temptation of Pornography Part I
If you have not read part I, go back and read Part I Here are some of the habitual beliefs that can really cause us problems: 1. That everything people do is an indication of whether they really love us or not. If our husband doesn’t take us on a date, it means he doesn’t…Continue reading Understanding (ours and others') Emotions II
After the articles on the Powers and Dangers of expectations I was asked by a good friend to follow it up with a conversation on the topic of: Disappointment. And I hate to let him down… Budda bum bum bum. This one is for you, Chad. I realized that it was a good idea since…Continue reading Experiencing (and being) a Disappointment
I have been asked to supply some additional thoughts about expectations – specifically about disappointment … after what I have written about expectations, a good friend wanted me to talk about how to handle being disappointed and how to handle being a disappointment. However, I didn’t have time to put it together, so Lord willing,…Continue reading When to seek marriage counseling
The way expectations can be even worse on a relationship is the way that they greatly limit the giving of free gifts. It is virtually impossible for someone to “meet an expectation” and give something freely at the same time. As I mentioned before, if my wife expects me to brush her hair three time…Continue reading The Dangers of Expectations – Part II
I hear and read about people who lionize the role of expectations… a lot. Marriage counselors talk about how spouses should be clear in their expectations. Business leaders tell us to communicate our expectations clearly. Relationship experts even tell us that we should be clear about our sexual expectations – frequency, style, etc. Parents are strongly…Continue reading The Dangers of Expectations – Part I
So, to wrap up this conversation on grief and grieving… I hope that is has been helpful. If nothing else, I hope you can see and know that you/we aren’t in this alone. We are in this together. The things here will not be as organized… I am kind of finishing up various thoughts –…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part V Just Grieve
Today , since I am on vacation, I have invited a Guest author: Drew Anderson of Flower Mound, TX. e-mail: drew.anderson@gsmortgage.com I will finish the conversation on Grieving asap… but Drew’s comments fit very nicely in with what we have been talking about so far! August 8, 2011 Uncomfortable. This is a word that perhaps…Continue reading What is the role of "uncomfortable"
It is part of the human condition, at least while here on Earth, to live with grief. Like big balls of double-sided tape, rolling through the medium we call “time,” collecting every regret, lament, remorse, etc. we rotate across. Sometimes the older ones eventually can seem to get buried under the new ones. For years…Continue reading Grief and Grieving – Part II – what is grief? what is grieving?
Hair-on-back-of-neck-moment. Nobody really seems to understand redemption anymore… but this explains it http://pjcockrell.wordpress.com/2007/11/22/amazing-grace-just-the-black-notes/ Slave master x slave chords x slaves = free… truly free.
I think I started the third talk about sex with an old story/legend about a man in the early 1900’s whose Model “T” had died on the side of the road. A stranger pulled alongside and offered some advice. The stuck driver was reluctant and argued, claiming to know a lot about cars. The good…Continue reading Talking to kids about sex – Part IV
Living in the cave seemed a little safer. But it wasn’t really as safe as she thought. Over the next few years, she had suitors, knights, kings, and princes, come find her in her cave. Though she was intrigued by some of them, she also didn’t understand them and something in her didn’t believe any…Continue reading The Lonely Dragon – Part II
“The most important thing that a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” Rev. Theodore Hesburgh Parenting is fundamentally discipleship… intense, daily, unrelenting, often unappreciated discipleship. They relate to one another in the same way that an ultra-marathon is a type of footrace. Discipleship, then, is fundamentally about replicating oneself. Paul…Continue reading Parenting is Discipleship – short article
This are my actual notes from the weekend talk that is linked to at Pine Cove’s website speaker archives for a Thanksgiving conference… Please remember they are my speaking notes, so they may not all make sense to you – sorry – I just want to help you in case you listen to the talk…Continue reading Notes from REST talks
As mentioned in the “how to” section of gifts, a great gift for one woman might be a disaster with a different one since for them, gifts are about knowing her and knowing what the gifts mean to her. However, I will list here some gifts that have been meaningful to my wife: Stuffed animals…Continue reading Giving Gifts part 2 – Gift ideas – Article 7
Heroes. People who make the world a better place. Super heroes are those with special gifts and a special calling in order to accomplish this role. 0k, men, when we were 4, we all wanted to be super heroes. If someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, you said “superhero.” …Continue reading We are Heroes – Phalanx Article 1
As mentioned in the “how to” section of gifts, a great gift for one woman might be a disaster with a different one since for them, gifts are about knowing her and knowing what the gifts mean to her. However, I will list here some gifts that have been meaningful to my wife: Stuffed…Continue reading Gift Ideas (Gifts part 2)